Monthly Archives: October 2011

The Vampire Diaries love

I wasn’t exactly thrilled by Mason’s return to Mystic Falls in ‘Smells Like Teen Spirit’ — especially because I knew he was back to seek revenge on Damon — but OMG I love Lexi. Seriously, she’s probably one of my favorite characters in ‘TVD’ history, even though she’s only really been in a handful of episodes. And after seeing the way she smashed Stefan’s head into the window of a car, how could you not love her?!

All of the girls in Mystic Falls have some serious problems. Their boyfriends are either dead, undead, in love with dead girls or are crazy rippers. So it’s nice to have a strong, badass female character in the mix — because the status of Katherine’s life is still TBD at the moment.tvd-ep.-7

But Lexi, Mason and Anna aren’t the only ghosts to return from the other side. Grams is back too! Unfortunately, she brings some bad news. It turns out that when Bonnie saved Jeremy and brought him back to life, she opened a small portal to the other side, and then after sending Vicki back to the ghost world, that witches on the other side kicked that supernatural portal wide open. Now, ghosts who have some unfinished business can cross over into the real world, including the tomb vamps, who start to go after the founding families.

It looks like the only way to send the ghosts back to the other side is to destroy Elena’s necklace. That means bye-bye Anna, Damon and my girl Lexi, but before Bonnie can send the ghosts back, Elena needs Lexi’s help to help her get through to Stefan. After all, if anyone can knock some sense — and humanity — into Stefan, it’s his best friend Lexi.

And she certainly put in a gallant effort. Lexi did everything she could to help Stefan find some of his humanity again. She tried starving him of blood, staking him (several times) and even reminded him how special the necklace he gave to Elena was to him. You know, the one Bonnie needs to destroy. But nothing she did could bring the old Stefan back. Although, I can’t lie, I love ripper Stefan. He’s about 100 times more interesting than the old Stefan, and it’s pretty obvious that Paul Wesley is having fun with him too.

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Posted by on October 31, 2011 in Love bread


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We both love

Most movie romances dwell on the chase, fading to black shortly after both parties first acknowledge that, yeah, maybe they do love each other. In the first few minutes of Like Crazy, Anna (Felicity Jones), a young Englishwoman studying in Los Angeles, leaves a four-page handwritten profession of love under the windshield wiper of a car that belongs to her American teaching assistant Jacob (Anton Yelchin). This girl cuts to the chase, with endearing self-awareness. At the bottom of the letter is a PS: “Please don’t think I’m a nutcase.”

This line makes Jacob smile. “It was a good disclaimer,” he says later, when they’re on their first date, at a café. Jacob is intrigued, unafraid and respectful. There’s something about Anna that he innately trusts and so does the audience; Jones (The Tempest) is a daintier version of Julie Delpy’s character from Before Sunrise—possessing of a romantic soul, yet intellectually engaged and full of promise. She’s irresistible. But Jacob approaches with a modicum of restraint, as if he knows that this relationship could be something monumental. It is. Their attraction is so vivid and heartfelt that it shimmers off the screen in waves and reminds you of what love felt like at 22—both the marvel and the

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Director Drake Doremus (Douchebag) and co-writer Ben York Jones clear out all the customary claptrap that hinder today’s movie romances: class differences, cute misunderstandings, commitment issues. The obstacle they throw in Anna and Jacob’s way is a bureaucratic one; in a haze of love, she overstays her visa. Anna is a child of some privilege, whose parents treat her as an equal, and her assumption is it can all be worked out. But immigration officials are unmoved by the cause of love and she is exiled. Jacob resists moving to London on the grounds that his fledgling furniture-making business is in Los Angeles. Their love is in the hands of lawyers.

The most treasured love stories tend to be the ones about separation – Love Story, The Way We Were, Casablanca, even The Notebook – so Like Crazy bucks no genre conventions in that regard. But by making the procurement of a visa in the post-9/11 world a problem that stretches out over seven years, the filmmakers create an unusual dynamic. On the one hand, it’s all about silly rules on a page, rules that ought to be bent – Anna is an aspiring writer, hardly a terrorist. But having the youthful belief that love makes everything right, she never considers the consequences of ignoring those rules. The movie is about the slow process of understanding that love doesn’t conquer all. That’s a hard lesson, but Doremus and his actors keep it from being a downer; they’ve created characters you feel so tenderly about you want to see them grow up, even when it hurts

With her big, soft eyes and transformative smile, Jones gives the more obviously alluring performance, but Yelchin, who most audiences might know from his role as Chekov in the Star Trek reboot, is also captivating in his own way. His raspy speaking voice is his secret weapon, sandpaper rough but somehow also soft in its invitation; you’d lean in to hear what he’s saying. And though he’s more puckish than dashing, Yelchin ranks with Joseph Gordon-Levitt in terms of young Hollywood talent.

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He plays Jacob as an old fashioned gentleman trapped inside a modernist’s body (his furniture designs are the movie’s funny little disappointment, blocky and unremarkable). So it’s a surprise that Jacob doesn’t offer to marry Anna (as her father observes, contemplating his legal bills, “If you two got married, it would save me a lot of money.”) Both resist this fix, suggesting the doubts that exist within the bubble of this idealized love. Or less charitably, that Doremus and Jones needed an excuse to prolong the narrative long enough to add the complication of new romances for them both, she with a handsome and adoring bore (Charlie Bewley), he with his assistant Sam (Jennifer Lawrence).

If that’s a slipup, the filmmakers make up for it everywhere else. There’s not an extraneous scene, and even the smallest moments — such as when Jacob goes to a London pub with Anna and stands around awkwardly — are ripe with meaning. Watching her with her friends, he sees how outside her life he is. The love they had together, a very brief interlude, exists primarily in a cloud of memory and emotion. Down with him on solid ground is Sam, sympathetic, helpful and devoted. “Do you want your jeans ironed?” she calls out cheerily. Despite how that sounds, Sam isn’t a doormat, nor is she clearly wrong for Jacob. She’d never drive him crazy with love, but maybe that’s not such a bad thing. Which way should he go? Like Crazy ends on a note that leaves both the characters and the audience hanging. Yet there’s a thrill in that ambivalence because it rings so true. Like Crazy is a cinematic love potion and you leave it feeling bewitched.

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Posted by on October 28, 2011 in Love


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Love bread

r-LIZZIE-MARIE-CUISINE-large570The first time Lizzie Marie Likness heard herself compared to a celebrity chef, she was a 7-year-old wearing a costume for Halloween. “This lady was like, ‘You look just like Rachael Ray. You’re going to be the next Rachael Ray,'” Likness recalls. Those words stuck with her. But today, she isn’t just playing dress-up.

At age 11, Likness has turned a love of healthy cooking into Lizzie Marie Cuisine, a successful website featuring videos, recipes and blogs to help kids eat healthier, and corporate projects, such as “Healthy Cooking with Chef Lizzie,” an online TV show for WebMD. Next on her branding agenda? A cookbook and dreams of a cookware line. At this rate, she’s on track to oversee a cooking empire by the time she hits her teens.

For this young entrepreneur, pursuing her passion has always helped lead the way for her business. A little advice from Rachael Ray herself certainly doesn’t hurt either.

At what age did you first fall in love with cooking?

I started cooking when I was about 2 years old. My mom and grandmother taught me how to cook. My mom would take me into the kitchen and put me on the counter, and I’d be her taste tester. If she was making soup or apple sauce, I’d stir the pot, add spices.

Then, at 6 years old, I got interested in horseback riding. I asked my parents if I could take lessons if I paid for them myself. When they asked how I would do that, I suggested selling homemade baked goods at a local farmers market. I did that for about a year and half, and that’s when I realized I liked cooking and showing people that healthy foods can be really fun and delicious.

When did you start realizing this might go beyond just funding your horseback-riding lessons and that it could be an actual business?

I never thought I would ever actually build a business out of just selling my apple dapple bread and chocolate chip cookies at the local farmers market. It was just something I was doing so I could pursue another passion I had in life. But once I started realizing how much people enjoyed my cooking and how much I enjoyed getting up early in the morning and baking and seeing people’s faces once they tried my food, that’s when I wanted to take it to the next level. I asked my dad to make me a website. And we did the first video and posted it on YouTube. I was nervous. A lot of people were supportive and helpful, while some people didn’t think a young person should be in the kitchen cooking. That’s their opinion. I love what I’m doing and it’s allowed me to do so many incredible things. I’m just kind of going with the flow and enjoying it and seeing where it takes me.

What were some of the initial reactions from customers?

A lot of people were surprised at how young I was, because they didn’t think a 6-year-old could be in the kitchen, baking breads and cookies. Once they got over that, they were pleasantly surprised and said the food was good and healthy. A lot of people are also skeptical at first because my recipes are creative and use interesting ingredients, but once they taste them, they realize healthy foods don’t have to be boring — they can be yummy and exciting.

Was your business also inspired by your parents’ combined 100-pound weight loss?

When my parents lost their weight, I was probably like 2 or 3, so I didn’t really take notice. My dad had a healthy-living business, and when I was older and started to learn more about why he had the business, I realized it was a pretty big deal to have a combined weight loss of 100 pounds. It was inspirational. It helped spark my interest. I thought if my parents could do it, anybody could do it.

My dad particularly helped me a lot with the business aspect. Mom and I would brainstorm over how we could take regular recipes that every kid knows and make them healthier and more exciting.

My parents have always been really supportive of me. When I was interested in tennis, they’d make sure I worked hard on it so I could be the best I was. No matter how old you are, it’s going to be hard to start your own business. You definitely need advice, and parents are some of the only people who can tell you this stuff. You shouldn’t be afraid to ask them for help, take whatever advice they give you, tell them what you really like to do and show them how much it means to you. They’ll see this is something you want to pursue and be open to the idea of helping you start your own business and seeing where it takes you.

How did the WebMD opportunity come up?

WebMD came to me. They were creating a Web show geared toward kids, teaching them how healthy eating could be really fun and how they could get involved in doing that. It was really cool because the first chef they thought of was Jamie Oliver, but he wasn’t available because he was doing Food Revolution. And the next person they thought of was me, which I was very flattered by. It was a fun experience — they flew me to New York last December and I was there for about week filming. It was hard work but really fun, and I would love to do something like that again.

Is that when you realized you really could be the next Rachael Ray?

It’s cool how she has her own talk show, and I think she is a really great chef and she has so much energy and loves what she’s doing so much. I would definitely love to have the same opportunities she does and have my own talk show or cooking show one day. She’s definitely a person I look up to, and I really respect her.

What was it like meeting her on her show as a contestant for the Kindness Challenge?

I was not nervous before at all. I was nervous when I actually got out there and realized I was on Rachael Ray. But it was so fun and a really great experience. It was fun shaking her hand. It was cool, I was the youngest person out of the group. When Rachael was announcing our videos and she said my name, I was like, “Oh my gosh, Rachael Ray knows my name. That’s so cool.” I was a little starstruck but was able to keep it together until after we got out. My mom and I went to lunch, and I said, “Oh my goodness, I just shook Rachael Ray’s hand.”

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Posted by on October 26, 2011 in Love bread


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This is love or nervous?

No one would say that they set out to get into a relationship with an insecure man. However, that’s exactly what many women do. In fact, an insecure man can be especially tempting to you, particularly if your last relationship was with a narcissistic man who was all about himself and not so interested in you, or a predatory man who was happy to let you support him. Viewed through the eyes of a woman who has been burned in a one of these relationships, an insecure man may seem sensitive and interested in you. In one way that it true: he is interested in the love you have to offer. But the insecure man can also be a bottomless pit that might just drain you of every drop of love you possess.

Why Insecurity Can Be Appealing

When she first met Adam, Grace thought that he was just shy and quiet. She had no idea that what she was seeing was severe insecurity. Adam was one type of insecure man — the underachiever. Though he had graduated from college and was employed as an engineer, Adam had never advanced very far. At work he always got evaluations that boiled down to “satisfactory” — in other words, far short of what was needed to get ahead.

Grace decided to commit to this relationship, after dating Adam for six months, in large part because he pursued her, and also because he came across as wanting the relationship very much. And unlike her previous two boyfriends, Adam at least had a steady job and was faithful to her. So when the lease on the condo that she was renting was up, Grace put her furniture in storage and moved in with Adam.

Six months later, things were far from rosy. It started with Adam finding fault with Grace: from the way she cooked and dressed to the way she spoke and the opinions she expressed. At first, Adam’s criticism was fairly mild (though still annoying). As time went on, however, Adam became very sarcastic, saying things like, “Don’t you think you’ve outgrown halter tops?” Then, at times, Adam could get explosively angry, shouting, throwing things, and calling Grace crude, demeaning names. To make matters worse, the more Grace tried to live up to Adam’s standards in order to avoid making him angry, the less it seemed to take to get him to the point where he would explode.

Grace had unwittingly let herself become hopelessly entangled in Adam’s insecurity and the distorted perceptions it created. It wasn’t as if she’d set out to bring out the worst in this insecure man. On the contrary, her sole motivation had been to try to keep the peace. But as with jealousy, once insecurity rears its head, the worst thing a person can do is to feed it. That’s what Grace had unintentionally done.

The Insecure Man

Here are some of the key signs of insecurity. All of them were evident in Adam’s personality. Grace saw them but initially she chose to minimize how important they were, and what they could mean for her relationship with Adam.

Needing Constant Reassurance and Approval: Grace quickly saw that Adam was someone who was easily deflated. He was quick to make self-deprecating remarks like, “That was pretty stupid,” or even, “What a loser!” Grace started responding to such comments by pointing out to Adam that he had a college degree and a good job, or just saying that it wasn’t true.

Smothering: Once Grace got hooked into a relationship with Adam, he quickly became more or less glued to her at the hip. He wanted them to be together all the time. He didn’t even like it when she was in a different room in the apartment they shared, and would come and sit beside her.

Jealous and Possessive: Grace was hardly a social butterfly; however, she did have friends and was close with her family. It wasn’t long before Adam began — in little ways at first — to question Grace when she wanted to spend time with friends or family. In time, this became a major sore point between them, to the degree that, when Grace was out with a friend or paying a visit to her sister, Adam would call her on her cell phone three or four times. And if friends or family would call when Grace was not at home, Adam would often “forget” to give her the message.

Distrustful: As an insecure man, Adam was not only jealous of Grace’s other relationships but also distrustful of others in general. He was forever suspicious of others’ motives, believing that people wanted to take advantage of him. As a result, he was very critical of others, quick to find fault and point out their flaws. Grace found this especially annoying when Adam criticized her family or friends or questioned their motives, when she knew very well that these people loved and cared about her.

s-INSECURE-BOYFRIEND-large You might ask, “Why would anyone want to do that?!” Well, one reason is that insecurity is not an all-or-none thing. Some men, like Adam, are so severely insecure that it might be impossible to have a viable relationship with them. On the other hand, many men are somewhat insecure, but not as insecure as Adam. In that case, the thing to avoid doing is making that insecurity worse. Here are a couple of tips for doing that:

Don’t accept responsibility for his insecurity. Grace did what many women in her situation do: she tried to quell Adam’s insecurity by continually reassuring him, and also by changing her lifestyle to accommodate his insecurity. In doing so she was unconsciously taking responsibility for Adam’s insecurity. If a man you are dating fits the above description to any significant degree, the place to begin is to recognize that it is his insecurity. It was there before you met him, and only he can heal it.

Don’t alter your lifestyle. The insecure man tends to be smothering, critical, and jealous. The more you alter your lifestyle in response to his insecurity, the worse (not better) his insecurity is likely to become. So, do not change the way you dress. Do not give up friends, family or activities such as yoga or exercise.

The good news is that insecurity can be overcome. However, it can only be overcome when a person recognizes that they are insecure and takes responsibility for doing something about it.

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Posted by on October 24, 2011 in Love


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If you love She give her the best

Don’t look now, but here come the holidays (really, they’re just 10 weeks away!). This year, we’re going to make planning and budgeting for them a snap.f40602b83be11729_80617015.xlarge

That’s why we’re starting early to help you tackle the season step by step — and save time, money and stress. If you follow our Guerrilla Guide each week, we promise that by the end of December, you’ll be outside on the skating rink instead of stressing inside the shopping mall.

According to our Facebook poll, 78% of LearnVesters were already thinking about holiday gifts as early as last week. So, for this issue of the Guerrilla Guide, we bring you the newest way to sort out your holiday gift list.


As you make your list this year, we want you to think about holiday giving a little differently.

Before you start assigning dollar amounts to everyone and hunting around for products to buy and wrap, first consider whether the best gift for them is a thing with a price tag. According to the Five Love Languages, defined by marriage counselor Dr. Gary Chapman, people receive messages of love very differently, and only one of these categories involves actual physical gifts. Some people would rather receive acts of service or quality time instead.

Read on to find out more.

In holiday-speak, the Five Love Languages can help you figure out who in your life responds best to which type of gift.

The Five Love Languages are:

Words of affirmation

Acts of service

Physical touch

Quality time

Receiving gifts

Don’t know your own love language — let alone which one your friends and family speak? “You can pick up cues about your friend or family member’s inclinations during everyday conversations,” explains Dr. Natalie Robinson Garfield, psychotherapist and author of “The Sense Connection”. Or you can always take the Love Languages quiz together. But in case you’re pressed for time, we’ve compiled this handy guide to help you decode who speaks what — and plot the best gift-giving strategy.

This holiday, limit buying “stuff” to just the people who want it, and you’ll have the best gift-giving season ever, in terms of green friendliness, time savings, thoughtfulness and money.

Words of Affirmation

In sum: These are word folks: People who feel loved through words of affirmation want to hear you say you love them, or what they mean to you. They love sweet messages, notes, letters and spoken words of appreciation.

Signs your loved one speaks this language: This is probably the person who’s good at expressing how much you mean to her. (We commonly express affection in the language we’d like to hear.) People who speak this language also generally enjoy using words—they’re those who tend to explain verbally rather than physically. They might respond ecstatically to a nice compliment.

Great gifts: This is the type who will linger over the words of a card (sometimes more so than the gift), so for a words of affirmation lover, never leave out the card! Spend more time crafting a thoughtful sentiment — the more specific the better—and tell her exactly how much she means to you and why you value her. If you want to forgo a physical gift, this person may just as well appreciate a beautiful card, a meaningful letter or — if you have the creative chops — a poem.

Acts of Service

In sum: Dad did always say you know your true friends by who’s at the other end of the couch when you move. These are the people who view helpful and service-oriented acts as signs you care: running errands, making a meal, helping out with a task.

Signs that your loved one speaks this language: This person feels connected through helpful actions, and is often volunteering to take things off your plate when you’re overwhelmed — and if you do something nice for him like grab him a cup of coffee or walk his dog, he feels more gratitude than if you had paid someone to do those things.

Great gifts: This person might not appreciate a physical gift as much as your doing something nice for him, such as cooking his favorite dinner, helping him throw a party, or assisting with a major work project. Consider one of those homemade “coupon books” for this receiver — filled with freebies for doing laundry, taking out the trash or bringing him breakfast in bed. If you do decide to buy this person a gift, consider spending less on something that has an act of service wrapped up in it — i.e. get a bag of gourmet coffee beans and attach a note saying that you’ll bring him a freshly brewed cup every morning.

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Posted by on October 21, 2011 in Love


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170px-DickseeRomeoandJulietLove is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment

170px-DickseeRomeoandJulietLove is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment.In philosophical context, love is a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection. Love is central to many religions, as in the Christian phrase, “God is love” or Agape in the Canonical gospels. Love may also be described as actions towards others (or oneself) based on compassion, or as actions towards others based on affection.

In English, love refers to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from pleasure (“I loved that meal”) to interpersonal attraction (“I love my partner”). “Love” may refer specifically to the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love, to the sexual love of eros, to the emotional closeness of familial love, or the platonic love that defines friendship, to the profound oneness or devotion of religious love. This diversity of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states.

Love in its various forms acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in the creative arts.

Love may be understood a part of the survival instinct, a function keep human beings together against menaces and to facilitate the continuation of the species

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Posted by on October 19, 2011 in Love


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Love in the wild

Take a first look at the premiere episode of NBC’s new reality series LOVE IN THE WILD which premieres on Wednesday June 29 at 10-11 p.m. ET.LOVE-IN-THE-WILD-NBC-13-550x366

Synopsis: This summer, NBC will premiere “Love in the Wild,” an exciting, new adventure-dating series that will put relationships to the ultimate test. Hosted by Darren McMullen (Australian “Minute to Win It”), 10 single men and 10 single women, all looking for love, will experience a romantic adventure unlike anything they could have ever imagined. These singles have tried it all – speed-dating, blind-dating, Internet dating — and now, they’re headed deep into the remote jungles of Costa Rica to see if they can find that special someone they’ve been looking for.

In each episode, the couples will pair up in exhilarating quests that will push their bodies and their emotions to the limit. Some of these include paddling down crocodile-ridden waters, navigating through bat-infested caves and hanging 200 feet above the rain forest floor as they descend down one of the most majestic waterfalls in Costa Rica. These exploits will put their relationships to the test as they fall for each other in ways they never imagined. Sparks will fly and hearts will break.

After each adventure, the winning couple will share a night together at the “Oasis,” a lavish, five-star bungalow overflowing with everything they could possibly desire for an intimate night of romance. The remaining couples will stay with their partners in the less luxurious “Cabins,” where they will gather for a night of socializing.

During an elimination unlike anything seen before, all of the couples will come together to reveal whether a connection has been formed with their current partner — or if they would like to switch and get to know someone else. At the end of every episode, two heartbroken singles will be sent home.

The series will culminate with just one couple left standing, who will have completed the adventure of a lifetime and found the one thing they’ve been searching for — “Love in the Wild.”

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Posted by on October 17, 2011 in Love in the wild


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