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A Silent Love

From the very beginning, the girl’s family strongly objected on her dating him. They objected because of his family background and felt that the girl will have to suffer for the rest of her life if she were to be with him.

Due to her family pressure, the couple quarreled very often. Although the girl love the guy deeply, she would always seek confirmation of his love by asking him,

“How deep is your love for me?”

As the guy is not good with his words, this often result in the girl to be very upset. These various reasons causes the girl to vent her anger on him often. The guy endured the suffering in silence.

After a couple of years, the guy finally graduated and decided to further his studies overseas. Before leaving, he proposed to the girl,

“I’m not very good with words, but I simply know I love you. If you allow me, I will take care of you for the rest of my life. As for your family, I’ll try my best to talk them round. Will you marry me?”

The girl agreed and touched by the guy’s determination, the family finally gave in and agreed to let them get married. So before he left the country, they got engaged.

The girl entered the working society, whereas the guy continued his studies overseas. They kept their love strong through emails and phone calls. Even though it’s hard, neither of them never thought of giving up.

One day, while the girl was on her way to work, she was knocked down by a car that lost control. When she woke up, she saw her parents beside her bed. She realized that she was badly injured. She saw her mum crying and wanted to comfort her. But she realized that she could only muster a sigh. She has lost her voice…

The doctors explanation was that the impact of the accident on her brain caused her to lose her voice. When she heard her parents comforting her but she was unable to reply them at all, she broke down.

During the stay in the hospital, other than crying silently there was nothing else she could do. Upon reaching home, life seemed to go on normally. However, whenever the phone rang, the ringtone seemed to pierce through her heart. She had no wish of letting the guy know about her condition. She did not want to be a burden to him. Hence, she wrote a letter to him informing him that she does not wish to wait for him to come back any longer.

Following that, she sent the engagement ring back to him. In return, the guy sent millions of reply and countless phonecalls… The girl could only drown her sorrows in tears as she ignored them all.

The parents decided to move away, hoping that she could eventually forget everything and be happy. With a new environment, the girl picked up sign language and started a new life. She told herself everyday that she must forget about the guy.

One day, her friend informed her that he’s back from abroad. She requested her friend not to let him know what happened to her. Since then, there wasn’t anymore news of him.

A year later, her friend came back with an envelope, containing an invitation card for the guy’s wedding. The girl was shattered. When she opened the letter, she saw shocked to see her name as the bride. Just when she was about to ask her friend what’s going on, she saw the guy standing in front of her. He used sign language to tell her this,

“I’ve spent a year’s time to learn sign language just to let you know that I’ve not forgotten our promise. Let me have the chance to be your voice. I Love You. With that, he slipped the ring back into her finger. The girl finally smiled.”

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Posted by on November 30, 2011 in Love



Finding My Ideal Guy

A few years ago I used to lie in bed at night asking to find my ideal guy. I would describe and visualise all the specific attributes I wanted him to have, then release my thoughts to the universe and fall asleep – and then I met Eric….

I stopped in my tracks, riveted by the photo that had appeared about a third of the way down my “matches” on, the dating site I had just joined. Thick wavy black hair tumbled down to nearly shoulder-length, layered in a ‘70s style. He was classically good-looking and all-American, clean-shaven with a square cut jaw that had a slight dimple in it. Huge brown eyes gazed up at me and straight, white teeth were visible in a smile.

I clicked on to the next page of matches and started scrolling down, but realised that I wasn’t really concentrating. I wasn’t seeing the faces anymore. I’d lost interest.

I couldn’t stop thinking about the face on the previous page, so I stopped looking and went back and checked him out again. He was even better looking than before. Not only that, but he seemed to have all the prerequisites I’d specified in my profile description, including being 6ft, degree-educated and a non-smoker. Plus, he was seven years older than me: perfect! I couldn’t believe I’d found him, and I’d only intended to browse out of curiosity.

“Hi there,” I wrote. “I’ve just joined and your profile appeared in my matches. You look and sound gorgeous – I especially love your hair. It’s just like I’ve asked for someone to be in my profile – like my teen hero David Cassidy!

“I’ve got long blonde hair, green eyes and am slim with feminine features. I am degree-educated and have a weakness for attractive Americans. I hate the British reserve and drinking culture, and all the shaven-headed hairstyles over here.

“I live about 30 miles from London in a county called Buckinghamshire, which is not far from Windsor Castle. I’m planning to tour New England in the fall, so maybe we could correspond and meet up? I hope this e-mail reaches you.”

I put “Hi from a Blonde Bombshell in England” in the subject line and sent the e-mail. Then I moved on to other things, went to bed and forgot all about it….

Until the next morning when I logged in and saw an e-mail back from him.

“Hi back,” he had written equally effusively. “Yes, you reached me and, wow, you are a bombshell. I have a weakness for green eyes.

“Thank you for the nice compliments and let me return them in spades. Beyond just your obvious beauty, I see depth in your eyes – I like that. You actually look like my dream profile too: blonde and pretty and smart.

“I like the idea of meeting up as well. Maybe that seems a bit premature, but I have a feeling about you. Write back and tell me more about yourself…. Eric”

Soon we were exchanging lengthy e-mails on a daily basis. Eric told me he was a musician who taught the guitar, and played in a rock band and a Portuguese wedding band. He lived in a waterfront cottage in Portsmouth, Rhode Island – a family heirloom he was planning to buy from his father. He had two younger sisters called Nanette and Valerie.

I wrote back and told him more about myself – all about my love of North America, and how I’d fallen in love with British Columbia on a university exchange programme and was in the process of emigrating to Canada. I told him I was a journalist who loved writing about social issues; and about my mother who had died of breast cancer 12 years earlier.

Our relationship was dynamite from day one. We expressed and shared our opinions on every subject , and our communication flowed like a river that was going to and from its source.

When one of us said something it sparked a thousand thoughts, feelings and emotions in the other – a need and urgency to reply and receive more in return. Our accents and cultural differences were arousing and intriguing, and we became obsessed by and addicted to each other. No day was complete without sending and receiving that e-mail, and, just as a structure is built upon a foundation, so the foundation of our communication created the basis upon which chemistry and an intense sexual attraction grew and flourished.

Within a few days our e-mails expanded into instant messaging, followed by increasingly intense phone calls that lasted several hours – and still we couldn’t get enough of each other.

Within eight days of meeting Eric, I booked a flight to Boston for a month ahead. Little did I know that I was on my way to meet the guy who was to change the course of my life for ever….

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Posted by on November 26, 2011 in Love



Love and Marriage?

I received a recent email from a follower of American Bedu who wishes to have some questions answered. The individual brought up some good points, especially when you apply logic with the rules and regulations of Saudi Arabia. Dating and public mixing of the sexes is prohibited in Saudi Arabia. Many marriages are arranged. Therefore, the reader wished to know with such regulations and traditions in place are there “love marriages” in Saudi Arabia or are they isolated to the upper class and Royals? Additionally, with such strict laws in Saudi Arabia, then how does a man flirt with another woman or marry another woman?

These are powerful questions and sensitive questions. Yes; dating and public mixing of the sexes is prohibited. However, that does not prevent young Saudis from contact with one another. The young Saudi men (and women too) can be creative when it comes to having contact with one another. I am not necessarily referring to meeting for a tete-a-tete but rather the increase use of social networking. Some young men may continue to use their Bluetooth on their mobile phone to exchange phone numbers and messages with young women. Some young men may also toss a paper to a woman with their mobile phone number. However more and more are going to social networking sites like Facebook or arabfriendz where they can “virtually meet” and get to know one another.

Contact between unrelated Saudi men and women remains frowned upon. As a result, there are many within Saudi Arabia who view the use of social networking as haram (forbidden). Naturally there are risks to the use of social network sites too. A Saudi woman must always consider her reputation, honor and that of her family. The Saudi men should take the same factors into consideration but in reality he is allowed much more leeway than a Saudi woman when it comes to interactions with unrelated females. I am not going to go further into interactions or consequences of the use of social networking sites other than to reiterate it is a venue where some unrelated Saudis have made initial contact which eventually led to a traditional meeting of families and marriage.

Traditional arranged marriages take place between families which know one another and believe their children would be compatible for one another. Or is some cases, the marriage is viewed as a connection between tribes which has been a tradition even prior to the Kingdom being known as Saudi Arabia but simply as Arabia. Marriages between cousins remain commonplace in Saudi Arabia.

It should also be pointed out that “love marriages” are not isolated to the case of upper class or Royals. In fact, Royals will marry within the family, usually to a first, second or third cousin…at least for the first marriage.

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Posted by on November 23, 2011 in love quotes


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If you love someone……

It all started when I was 6 years old. While I was playing outside on my farm in California, I met a boy. He was an average kind of boy who teased you and then you chased them and beat them up. After that first meeting in which I beat him up we kept on meeting and beating each other up at the fence. That only lasted for a little while though. We would meet at the fence all the time and we were always together. I would tell him all my secrets. He was quite very quiet he would just listen to what I had to say.

All through high school and even through graduation we’re always together and of course I thought of it as being friends. But I knew deep inside that I really felt differently. On graduation night even though we had different dates to the prom I wanted to be with him. That night after everybody went home I went to his house and wanted to tell him that I wanted to see him. Well, that night was my big chance and all I did was just sit there with him watching the stars and talking about what I was going to do and what he was going to do. I looked into his eyes and listened to him talk about what his dream was. How he wanted to get married and settle down. He said how he wanted to be rich and successful. All I could do was to tell him my dream and cuddle next to him. I went home hurting because I didn’t tell him how I was feeling.

I wanted to tell him so bad that I loved him but I was too scared and frightened. I let my feelings go and told myself that someday I would tell him just how I felt. All through college I wanted to tell him but he always had someone with him. After graduation he got a job in New York, I was happy for him but at the same time I was sad to see him go. I was sad also because I didn’t tell him how I felt.

If you love someone, don’t wait till tomorrow to tell him/her. Maybe that next day will never come at all.

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Posted by on November 18, 2011 in Love



A Hungarian Loves an Irish….

I was in love, truly, deeply in love….with my ex-boyfriend over 2 years ago…We broke up as it usually happens when you are 18. It was an ugly ending I still loved him..Could not have stayed in Hungary any longer, needed a change.

I quit my job and said goodbye to my family, came to Ireland to start my life all over again. I missed him, I missed him a lot but I have always been a strong women so I knew I cannot give up. I settled down in the heart of Dublin, got an okay job, got friends. Had my life just like before him..Never thought I would fall in love with somebody again (at least not any soon). Once I was spending time on my Facebook. I saw this advertisement about that website called ‘Love struck’, I just said to myself why wouldn’t I try it out??? I registered..never did anything like that before as I never believed in the way like that to find your true love. Of course the website like that started to ask me lots of question, I had to set up a proper profile and I just got so fed up and left in the middle of it.

Few days later I received an email from ‘Love struck’ which said that I should definitely go back and complete my profile as I might lose the chance to meet somebody and that my biological clock is clicking. I was so pissed, my biological clock???? I was 21…so I just went back and finish up my site. Never cared about it after that. I really don’t know how long I didn’t check my page there, I started to go out with the guy (which was the biggest disappointment in my life)…

Once I just thought what not I’ll go and have a look…Found a few guys, left a few message to them. Also found a guy who had written on his profile that he is looking for a beautiful, smart, funny, intelligent but serious girl (which was certainly everything), I remember thinking he must be a funny guy, reading his profile a bit further he just said “if you like what you read send me one email or two or three”…that was a sentence made me write him a message. Although that time I hadn’t had any profile picture and good English he answered me back…I didn’t know what was going on in his mind but we started to talk. We used to change emails two-three times a day, it was like we have been together years and now we are just spending some time apart. We talked about everything, we knew each other more then anybody else. The time went on and we decided it to meet up. Didn’t work. I really don’t know how people do this but after two months talking when I met him I couldn’t introduce myself or anything like that. It was weird and awkward. We didn’t kiss and then I left. On the way home I thought this has been an awful date we will never see each other again. I was disappointed but I didn’t regret any moment we spent by emailing each other. When I got home I had an email waiting for me. An explanation about why he acted so weird and what he really feels about me. We agreed about an other date, next day beside the see. I had not too much hope to be honest that anything can go better, but it did. We had a wonderful time together. We didn’t kiss but it was still the best day.

Days were passed, we had dated for a while until I got extremely drunk and started to send him text messages about what and how I want to do with him. Next day I was terrified that I lost him but no I didn’t. It just made him realize how much he wants the same thing and how much he wants me to be his girlfriend. I spent the night with him, that was the first night we spent together….

A few months later he went to America, it was a business trip. Not too long but enough to makes us finally realize we are in love. When he came home it was the first time we said, we love each other…

It has all been over a year. We are living together now and have an adorable little dog as well. We have arguments of course, and fights several times but I know that I can’t be happier than that.

My life has been totally changed. I left my country, my family, my friends but I found my new home, my new family…

Since I know he is my better half, I cannot imagine my life without him the only thing I can’t wait for is to be his wife and make him happier then ever.

Thank you ‘Love Struck”

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Posted by on November 15, 2011 in Love Memorial


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Their Love story-Guy & Tammy

Guy and Tammy had several encounters before the actual first date. And here is their story…

We first met in Michigan at a Withrow basketball game back in 1996.

The second time was a few months later at a friend’s wedding where he was dj’ing.

The third time we came across each other was at a club in Clifton and that’s when we finally exchanged numbers. Now my interest sparked in him due to us both having kids who were mentally disabled and his son had once stayed in a place where I had recently placed my son so I wanted to get his insight on the place.

Although we exchanged numbers from March to September we spoke on occasions, but we finally had our first date at the end of September at the haunted house in Middletown. By Thanksgiving we made it official that we were a couple. We dated for a year and a month then we separated.

We got back together in October 2010; God works in mysterious ways. Although I felt like he wasn’t the one it was just me who needed time to work on me and accept and appreciate a good man. He has always been supportive, loving and caring to me and my two boys even when we weren’t together. After the passing of my son I believe our love grew more and more. And on April 29, 2011 we found out we were having our first child together.

On July 10th he proposed to me!! It was truly beautiful something I never expected would happen to me, although he said he wanted to marry me I just didn’t think it would ever happen. It was perfect!! The restaurant was beautiful (The Celestial in Mt Adams). Although I didn’t cry and it was more of laughter coming out of me, I was crying inside I wouldn’t have had him do it any other way! It was his way, it was original and he truly fooled me!! No one has ever surprises me like that and I believe at that moment I fell in love with him all over again!!

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Posted by on November 11, 2011 in Love Memorial


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To Grow As a Couple

nce you’ve been dating for a while (a year or more), the need to do everything together starts to fade. The focus shifts slowly back to individual ambitions and priorities, rather than couple-oriented goals. We all need our own purposes in life, but growing not only as an individual but also as a couple can be good for your relationship. Here’s how.

Take a trip together.

We’re not talking a one-week all-inclusive vacation, but rather something that requires a bit more work. You don’t have to stay in hostels for a month, but traveling and going somewhere out of your comfort zone forces you to work as a team to overcome hurdles (missed connections, language barriers) and make the best of even difficult situations.

Volunteer together.

Whether you serve meals at a soup kitchen or help build houses with Habitat for Humanity, volunteering together can bring you closer and make you feel good about yourselves. Not only will you help others, but you’ll also do something positive for your relationship.

Learn something new.

Like traveling together, tackling new challenges takes you out of your comfort zone and can be very rewarding. Learn a new language, take up a sport neither of you have tried before, or get creative and take an art or photography class. Whatever you choose will be a bonding experience and something that will help you grow together.

Set a mutual goal.

When you first fell in love, you probably had a list miles long of things you were going to do together. Whether it’s running a half-marathon, learning to surf or climbing Kilimanjaro, take some time to come up with a mutual goal and create a plan to make it happen.

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Posted by on November 9, 2011 in love quotes